It's just not
going to work out
between you and
I.
So I have to end
this.
No hard feelings,
I just can't afford this relationship.
A woman's got to
have the right to choose
who she lets into
her life.
If only these
were different circumstances
I might have been
able to cope.
But I never
expected to see you - not now. You just weren't
part of my plans.
I'm sure you'll
understand one day.
You're just not
worth it.
Don't you see how
much pain you'll cause me?
Don't you
understand what I'd have to go through
to make this
work?
Do you realize
how terrible it was for me
when I found out
about you?
You were supposed
to be something great
for me.
But you're really
just an
inconvenience.
I'm sorry, but
you have to go.
You're just not
worth it.
I've thought this
through a million times,
and everyone I've
talked to agrees.
You wouldn't be
good for me.
Just not right
now. I have to do
the responsible
thing.
I have to do
what's right
for me.
My future is
riding on this,
I can't let you
jeopardize everything.
You're just not
worth it.
Some might argue
with me.
They say I'm not
being fair, and
I know it's not
your fault.
But at this
point, that's not the issue.
Who's to blame
doesn't matter,
what matters is
you're here
and you shouldn't
be.
You're just not
worth it.
I'm not
heartless.
I'm making the
best decision I know how to make.
I've done my
research on your kind, and
I know what could
happen,
so I'm not going
to take any risks.
I'm taking you
out of my life
before you can
cause me any pain.
You're just not
worth it.
Once you're gone
I'll move on with
my life.
I won't regret it
for a moment.
It will be like
you never even
existed.
I won't remember
you.
You're just not
worth it.
One moment is all
it takes.
One moment, and
you're gone.
Like the flip of
a switch, the
blowing out of a
candle.
I'll let you go
like the sand in my fingers.
You're just not
worth it.
I'll admit
though, the idea
of having you
here with me
still clings to
my mind even now.
But I'll shut you
out. I must.
You're just not
worth it.
Time is fleeting.
Time to
decide.
Time to give you
up.
You're just not
worth it.
It's time to say
goodbye, but I feel like
I never got the
chance to get to know you.
You're just not
worth it.
In the end, you
were never worth the trouble, because
you're just not
worth it.
My baby.
This poem was my
reaction to an article I read on abortion. A lot of the lines are actually
almost exact quotes from women who have had abortions. This poem sums up
basically the way I see most women thinking through this situation. You have no
idea how much it saddens me to know that there are millions of people who have
been told this, whether while they were still in the womb, during middle
school, or in the adult world. So many people have been told that they're just not worth someone's time, respect, or love.
It doesn't matter who you're talking to, you
don't have the right to tell someone they don't deserve to live because
they're an inconvenience to you. Killing a child is never the responsible thing to
do. I realize this is a very controversial issue, and there are many aspects to this debate. Do not read into this and assume that I hate women who have had abortions. I'm grieved by their decisions, but that doesn't mean that I hate who they are or something like that. My feelings about this issue stem entirely from my desire for everyone to have a chance to come into this world and live their own life.
I think one of my all-time favourite heroes from my childhood said it best, when he declared that "A person's a person, no matter how small." I'm not trying to put words into the author's mouth here, I'm just saying what I've always taken out of that story. And that is simply that it doesn't matter how insignificant someone may seem, they matter to God, and therefore they matter to me.
I don't think I need to ask any questions to get people commenting on this one, but I would like to just request that we all remain civil in our discussion of this issue. Just think about what you say before commenting. That is all.
I think one of my all-time favourite heroes from my childhood said it best, when he declared that "A person's a person, no matter how small." I'm not trying to put words into the author's mouth here, I'm just saying what I've always taken out of that story. And that is simply that it doesn't matter how insignificant someone may seem, they matter to God, and therefore they matter to me.
I don't think I need to ask any questions to get people commenting on this one, but I would like to just request that we all remain civil in our discussion of this issue. Just think about what you say before commenting. That is all.
powerful.
ReplyDeleteExcellent stuff, and a great perspective on an important subject.
ReplyDeleteA woman also has a right to make her own choices, misogynistic body-policing aside. I'm assuming from your obvious white, middle-class male-privilege that this is a choice that you will never have any perspective on.
ReplyDeleteAnd what are your thoughts on cases of rape?
Thank you for your comment.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry that I've written this post in such a way as to come off as misogynistic. My intention is not to be hateful or judgmental toward women at all. I have the utmost respect for women, and understand that many have choices to make that I will never have to worry about. That doesn't mean that I can't have an opinion about them, and having an opinion doesn't mean that I'm trying to belittle them, or come down hard on them.
You're right. I am a white, middle-class man who will never know what it's like to be a woman. I don't understand a woman's perspective perfectly, but do you expect any man to? I certainly agree that a woman has the right to make her own choices. Among those choices are abstinence, adoption, and contraception. When I say that, I'm sure you will read into it and hear me as condemning. I will re-iterate. I am not saying that women who have abortions are somehow more evil than anyone else. I am not saying I don't like them. I am saying that it deeply saddens me to see so many people make a choice that they feel is their only option when it's not.
As for rape, I think it's vile, and incredibly damaging and destructive. People are capable of unbelievable injustice. Where we will most likely diverge in opinion is that I am not someone who believes in situational ethics. If something is right, then it's right in every situation, and if something is wrong, then it is wrong in every situation. Sometimes (in rare cases) you will have to choose between the lesser of two evils, but the lesser of two evils does not become good by virtue of being compared to the alternative.
Applied to this situation, if a woman were to get pregnant after being raped, I would say that was appalling, and incredibly unjust. It would break my heart to see someone go through that.
However, I believe that from the moment of conception there is life. I honestly couldn't care less if you say there's no heartbeat or brain, or anything else. In my mind that's a person from the very beginning, and to willingly cause the death of another person is wrong (let's not get into war, that's a whole other can of worms).
So while it is tragic when women get pregnant after a rape, it is in my mind made much more tragic when that woman decides that the baby is not deserving of life.
What it comes down to for me, is a woman has a right to make her own decisions, but doesn't a person also have the right to live? I will stand behind women's rights to be respected, and treated with dignity, but I will also stand behind a person's right to come into this world regardless of the circumstances surrounding their birth.
I didn't start this blog so I could have arguments and hurt people's feelings. In both my original post, and in my reply, I have sincerely done my best to be as clear and sympathetic as possible. I hope that I've at least answered your question to your satisfaction, and that you will not take this as something personal.